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You All Make This Blog Worthwhile
Posted by Simple Dude | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 23-03-2011
I need to thank all of you Simpletons BIG TIME for your help on my post yesterday about my Lady Friend’s dwindling list of friends, and just how one goes about making NEW friends once you get into your 30′s. I was truly blown away by all the great responses – more than 50 already! I thought I would get a few good answers and a lot of funny stuff (which is always welcome by the way) but you guys have come through in a huge way.
Suggestions such as a kickboxing class, running groups or other similar ideas are great ideas as we both are into staying fit. Also something to do with her photography passion would be good. I know she’d be into a book group but doesn’t have a lot of spare time to read these days between a busy job and taking some masters level classes at night. Unfortunately those are IT classes so most of the people she meets through school are nerds – no real friend possibilities there.
I didn’t even tell her I wrote that post – she rarely browses her way onto my blog without me asking her to read something. If she doesn’t stumble onto it in the next few days I am planning on telling her this weekend and letting her read all your awesome suggestions. Hopefully she won’t be pissed at me for putting it out there!
I figured there must be other people dealing with something similar, but was amazed at how many of you have mentioned this has happened to you or your significant other at some point. Inside The Philosophy Factory invited my Lady Friend to join them for coffee with her BFF who are also here in the Twin Cities. You never know, she just might take you up on that!
And A Little Sprite actually thanked me for the post as she has found herself in a similar situation and said she was going to try out some of the suggestions. I’d love to hear if any of them work – and I’ll be sure to update everyone on my Lady Friend’s situation and let you know how much your suggestions helped – I’m already sure some of them are exactly what she needs.
Feel free to go back and leave any other suggestions you have may – they are all very welcome and the Lady Friend and I will take them all to heart!
In the meantime, I’m back over at Sprocket Ink today! This post is about GUNS baby! Well, sort of. Give it a look will ya?
What I tried to say yesterday before the interwebs hosed me up was that I think you deserve a big kudos for sincerely caring enough about your lady friend's happiness to realize how important these connections are to her and despite having a good close circle of your own, would like to help her enjoy the same thing. That is stand up, really. Most guys would either not recognize the importance or would just feel like it was not something they could help with. Bravo to you sir!
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@6:32 pm
Your lady friend is a lucky gal!
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@6:42 pm
how lucky your lady friend is
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:02 pm
glad to the hear all the suggestions did help, I do IT i hope that doesn't mean I'm a nerd, if so then I might have to ditch my glasses and braces for a more cooler look whilst surfing the net.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:04 pm
@Random: Thanks for the kind words. I have never known what it's like to NOT have a bunch of friends, so I just want to do what I can to help her.
@Samuel: haha, yeah maybe that was an unfair generalization. No, all IT people are not nerds. But I'm sure you'd admit that field does attract some geeky folks.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:10 pm
YAY! Glad you got such a great response. That's amazing. I've never had that many comments on ANY post.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:18 pm
Yeah i do agree that whole field does attract a lot of nerds and I hope that I'm not one of them nerds, fingers crossed.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:22 pm
I hope she finds new good friends
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:24 pm
At least both of u know she is not alone w/this issue… I have found that people don't mean to be shallow, I blame it on the fact that people have a lot on their plates… People grow apart as they get older, tastes, views change.. That's what I keep telling myself.. I know it makes me feel better and I have to admit, I even have changed and dropped a few friends… We all are growing…
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:31 pm
I have been really slacking on reading all of my blogs.. I haven't even read yesterday's post yet.. maybe i should get to that..
congrats on the sprocket ink gig. that's awesome.
amberlashell.com
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@7:33 pm
I intended to leave a comment myself as it is a situation I have found myself. Combination of things seem to lead to dwindling friendship circle although the friends I do still see often are very special. I found Zumba class (coffee after of course) has been a great way to meet people and going with a couple of friends from work has moved the work relationship to actual real friendship. I think in a lot of ways, you find that friendships come and go through life. And friendships take work. If I am the one doing all the calling and organizing, then I usually reassess.
Lady friend is very lucky to have a man like you.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@8:17 pm
Can't wait for that one.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@8:32 pm
I missed that post because I'm busy moving but I will say that bloggers always come through when you need them.
Posted on: Mar/23/2011@9:42 pm
Ditto with Bouncin' Barb, but I went to Catalina instead. I agree, bloggers have come through for me more than once. Friends are difficult to find and keep, that's why I don't have more than a few. I think the photography thing would be good, maybe something that starts online? I love photography too, so let me know if she thinks of anything about that.
Posted on: Mar/24/2011@1:40 am
Pleeeeaaase tell me the FBI was investigating Mr. & Mrs. Moron. ;o)
Posted on: Mar/24/2011@2:59 am
NAWW… thanks for the mention Simple Dude, I really did find it very helpful. Your Lady is a lucky gal
Posted on: Mar/24/2011@9:02 am
Friends are hard to come by, but with a little thinking outside the box, there are plenty of wonderful people out there to get to know. I can only gather that finding new friends is like the blind-dating scene. There will be a load of flops along the way. As long as the focus is on just being nice to people you see every day, chances are some really good friendships begin to take shape when you least expect them.
As for me, I always believed that it is more meaningful to have a few really close friends than just a ton of acquaintances anyway.
As for the Lady Friend getting pissed about blogging about it… Well, as long as she reads this blog, she will get to see something that, chances are, you rarely show (being simple and all) that you care enough to try to help. She is one lucky lady.
Posted on: Mar/24/2011@1:38 pm
Nice to be given the opportunity to help, hope it works out for. But remember, nerds need friends too.
Posted on: Mar/24/2011@1:45 pm
Just read and commented on your last post. True friends are hard to come by. What's really hard to swallow is when you think you've found a true friend and they wind up ridiculing you or talking down to you, etc. You wonder what the hell you did, when, in reality, they were probably not really your friend to begin with.
I know she counts her blessings to have you in her life.
Meanwhile, my BFF is still pissed (i.e. leaving snarky voicemails) at me for not watching American Idol from the beginning of this season's auditions. Ah, friends.
Posted on: Mar/25/2011@2:30 am
Dear Simpledude, I am a simple life form (a slug) and wish to comment about the complexities of true friendship. We slugs like to keep our tentacles to ourselves most of the time, but every now and then we gotta slide out with a buddy. All nibble and no goo is hard on a mollusk, so I recommend exactly what you have to your ladyslug, get out there and find a new activity that requires exertion, where many other like minded slugs will be congregating. Turn over a new leaf and start eating it at once! Go ladyslug, go! Love and much luck for finding your new friends, humbly yours, Mrs. Slug
Posted on: Mar/25/2011@7:53 am