Something has been on my mind for a couple months now. You know when you’re walking in or out of a building, or maybe a popular restaurant with a regular stream of people going in and out… common courtesy is to hold the door for the person behind you. Right?
But sometimes you’re walking along a bit distracted, and not exactly sure if there is someone right behind you. You’re not going to turn around and look before getting to the door, that would just look stupid. So you have to guess. Let’s say you guess there is not someone right behind you so you just walk through as if you were the only person in the world, letting it close behind you. What’s the worst thing that can happen? If there IS a person right behind you they just have to open the door themselves – just as they would if THEY were the only person in the world.
Then there is a completely different scenario. Again – you’re distracted. You have heard footsteps though you’re not sure how far back they are. But being a nice person, you care about your fellow humans. You decide to hold it for this individual. As you stop and wait for them to grab the open door you are holding, you realize the person isn’t right behind you. They are like 20 feet or more behind you. Obviously you’re not going to be a dick and just turn and keep walking so you are forced to stand there and wait. This creates that uncomfortable moment as they see you waiting for them. They say something like “oh!” as they don’t want to be rude and keep you waiting.. so they pick up their pace, sometimes skipping a bit to get to you quicker.
I have been on both sides of that scenario and it sucks either way. It may be better just to always assume there is no one behind you.
If you are the one coming along behind the door holder and you’re right there to grab it from them do you feel obligated to give them a quick “thanks”? I say the thanking part isn’t really that necessary… I mean, sure it’s a courtesy thing. Most people who are door holders will do it without wanting that instant gratification of a simple THANKS. So if someone doesn’t thank you – it’s not the end of the world. Especially if you walk through a series of doors, always holding it for the person behind you. Are you really expected to say thanks every time? That’s bullshit.
HOWEVER… if you are 20 feet back from them, and they miscalculate and choose to wait – forcing you to take those couple quick steps to catch up while they stand there holding it you sure as hell better thank them.
Even though they are the ones who mistakenly thought you were right behind them, and chose to stand there waiting – you are still keeping them a couple seconds. And you never know what those couple seconds could mean. They could miss an elevator on their way to work, or miss a reservation at their favorite eating establishment. They could have some slow ass person get ahead of them in line at Starbucks. They might even miss out on buying a winning lottery ticket. So for the love of God, thank them.
Yeah, yeah, I know those couple seconds could save them from getting hit by a bus too… but that doesn’t really fit my argument now does it??
This is just a small sample of the kind of things that go through a Simple Dude’s mind when he has time to think. Scary huh?
For my comment of the day, I’m actually going back to my Half Assed Weekend post from Saturday since this comment was just left on Tuesday, and it made me SOL. That’s Snicker Out Loud. What did you think it meant?? Remember, that post featured the 6-Pack Drink Holster. Dr. Cynicism from Cynicism 101 gave us this:
“I’ll take 4 please! I wonder if they can make one that holds 6 broken dreams”
For the sake of those who would use it, we can only hope.